I believe when it comes to relationships ,“Cheating” is the most commonly spoken word. majority of the people I know from my personal circle have been through a cheat related break up ,and if you are reading this either you’ve been cheated or are cheating .
From an evolutionary psychological stand point cheating can be taken as a natural phenomena that is in our genes .Back when we were primates ,
like most animals we mated with multiple partners ,that was the only way to expand our species . But over the time our primitive ideas of what a relationship has changed into a simple form of one entity a“couple” but it is in our nature to cheat because some of us are still primitively not advanced . I’m not justifying cheating ,before you judge me let me speak . Social norms made cheating impossible and now that the human race have survived there is no purpose of mass breading .So if you are making this an excuse to go cheat on your partner ,sit your sorry bottom down .
Why People Cheat
Now people cheat for many different reasons but for the sake of argument I will speak about common two
Problems in the current relationship
Now most of the men that I speak to have two or three women ,a main chick and a side chick/s ,again don’t judge me ,I’m not friends with these people I just know them ,I have always hated these behaviors .My theory is that if you have a problem in your relationship ,I mean trust me a successful relationship should have problems and you should be comfortable with each other to communicate about those problems ,and most men hate talking ,that’s because our toxic masculinity instead of talking we tend to bottle up our emotions and thoughts and let it eat us from within .So when guys (both gay and straight guys) have problems in their relationships ,what they do is go find a solution everywhere except in their relationship .And when you confront them, their excuse is “I don’t want to hurt my girl/man” to that my first question is “Which girl?”
My advice for dudes like that is ,if the relationship that you are in is at a bad place and there’s nothing you can do to solve that problem ,just end the relationship ,because you are hurting the other person ,it is not right ,just end things it will be painful but, it is the right thing to do ,because if someone finds out about your side chicks ,people will because this is 21 century people are not stupid ,things get leaked all the time .If that happens you are in for a messy break up .So to all the guys and girls that are cheating on their partners ,and are afraid to end things because it might “hurt” them ,my advice is do the right thing and end things .Have some respect for people and for yourself .
Broken Family
Some people come from broken families and it is okay, but when you come from a broken family ,you tend to follow footsteps of your failed parents ,for example if your parents got divorced from a cheat related incident there is a chance that the children end up following that footsteps . I remember few years back there was this research that was conducted in the UK that says that most of the participants who had cheated on their partners had mothers who cheated on their dads .That was upsetting but still a broke family is not an excuse for you to go gallivanting while being in a relationship .But if you do come from a broken family there is an extra luggage that you are carrying so it would be best if you address that before getting in to a relationship .Ask me how drop me a dm. Some people are afraid of being like their parents and that fear alone could actually create long lasting trust and commitment issues which will push them to be their parents .So please go see a professional. No more Yahoo Answers
Lastly .Most important thing ,don’t go after the internet to solve your relationship issues ,because each and every relationship is unique ,the best thing to do is to go for a specialist (like myself) who can untangle your problems and give you plausible solutions .Internet is helpful but you don’t go to WEBMD when you have a stomach ulcer you go to see an actual doctor ,do the same about the problems related to your mind .
